So, as one of my first tasks as internet "wise sister", I will share with you all 10 quick pieces of advice that I have learned over the years, and that have helped me in my own life. Of course, I have loads more but this is a good starting point.
- Avoid dipping your pen in company ink aka Avoid having sex with anyone at work especially in your direct food chain like your boss or your direct reports because keeping your private life and work life separate is so much more stress free. Exception to the rule: if you or the guy are leaving the company.
- If it feels like someone is not being truthful with you, they aren't. Listen to your gut, but don't assume anything until you have all the evidence in hand. What that person may be hiding may not be what you think.
- There is more than one path to a destination. If you haven't arrived where you want to be, re-examine your map and find a new path. Going down the same road will only bring you to the same place.
- Always wear sun block especially on your face. You'll be grateful when you're 40 when you have less wrinkles than your sun-soaking friends.
- Don't put your life on hold until you get married, lose weight, have kids, or have more money because your life will become one of waiting versus living. In the process of doing things that make you feel happy and alive, you're more likely to find that husband, family, health, and money you always wanted.
- There is a win/win solution to every problem. Always. You just need to be creative.
- You will get what you want faster if you ask directly, specifically and point out the benefit to the other person. For example, if you want your man to hug you more, tell him "I'd like you to hug me more because when you do it makes me feel more loving towards you." You get more hugs [your want] and your guy gets more loving attention from you [his benefit].
- You can have less anger in your life if you start accepting people for who they are instead of who you want them to be or expect them to be. As a 91-year-old Jewish grandma told me once, "It is what it is. You can't change people but you can change how you react to them." So true, grandma!
- Don't say yes to something you really don't want to do simply because you don't want others to be upset or mad at you. They will be a little mad now, but will be a whole lotta mad later because you wasted their time and effort.
- If you really are meant to be together, neither time, distance, nor circumstance will keep you apart. However, you must respect the vows and conditions that you and the other person have made to other people. Complete and end your current relationship before starting a new one so you both can start your new life together with a clean slate and a happy conscious.
