Yesterday, the theme of the tiny inspiration signs was "Letting Go." So now, that's sounds like a great idea, but how do you go about taking action on letting go of whatever it is you need to release yourself from? Your Inner Resistance Monster is going to remind you of the fear, the pain, and the uncertainity of everything, but that's okay, that's the monster's job. Your job is to stay focused on moving forward. Here's some tips to start letting go.
- Take 5 minutes, lay down and close your eyes. Ask your Inner Resistance Monster to sit with you and have a conversation about the thing you need to let go of. However, in this debate, you will play devil's advo
cate. Your Inner Resistance Monster will give you every reason to stay in the safety albeit unhappy state of your current situation. You will come up with a counter reason for each response your IR Monster gives you. After awhile, you'll start to get a better perspective.
- On a piece of paper write down the thing you need to let go of, then take the paper, and rip it up, burn it, throw it into the ocean, or toss it into the trash. The physical act of letting go of even a piece of paper with your issue on it starts signaling your brain and psyche that you mean business.
- Get a piece of paper and write down 3 things that you will gain by letting go. You may think that there is nothing positive that can come out of letting go, but what if someone told you your life depended on you coming up with those 3 positive things. All of a sudden, you'd be able to think of 3 things quickly.
- Go read an autobiography by someone you respect, admire, or look up to. In that autobiography, you will find at least one story about how that person needed to let go of something in order to achieve their dreams, greatness, or goals. No one no matter how famous, rich or smart someone is no on goes through life without having to learn the process of letting go.
- Ask someone, a friend, a family member, or a sponsor to help you. Let them be your guide of objectivity during the letting go process.
What I did last week:
I started letting go of how I'm supposed to get married, and when, where and who my husband will be. Admittedly, I've been kind of freaked out about this for awhile, and turning 40 didn't help much to alleviate that anxiety. However, the advantage of being older, having years of experience dating and spending time on my own self growth along with learning from my friends who've been divorced one-two times, is that I know the more I feel anxious and desperate about the marriage thing, the more I constrict the possibilities and make myself miserable along the way.
For a very long time, I've been fixated on the "why." Why am I not married yet? Why does it feel like marriage is there for everyone else but not me? I used to ponder these questions for hours and days and end up feeling resentful and angry. Last week, I actually came to the conclusion that being single is great too. This was big for me. Being single has many advantages as well and I started thinking about how lucky I am to be single and live in an area where there are many single people, my age, in similar circumstance. I also remind myself that being married doesn't necessarily mean that life automatically becomes "better." I learned that the hard way with the skinny jeans dream, and being in relationships where I felt more alone with my significant other than being literally by myself.
So, for the first time in a long time, I'm okay and happy being single. I don't know why I'm still single, and that is okay. Perhaps, I'm just a late bloomer. Perhaps, my husband is not ready for me yet. Or, perhaps God's answer is simply, "Not yet." In my heart, I know I will be married in this lifetime, and I will have the kind of love I want or something better. Actually, I do know one reason why I'm not married yet. I have always wanted Mr. Right, and not Mr. Right Now, so I've held out. My husband is out there. So, until that time, I will continue to live the happiest life I have now because it's a pretty damn good one ;-)
