How the magical skinny jeans dream is similar to the perfect wedding day dream
Reader Amanda, is engaged and planning her big day. Congratualtions! However, not wanting to fall into the bridezilla trap of driving everyone nuts and into debt she asks, "would love to hear your thoughts on the whole crazy subject before my
plans go into a financial tailspin of ice sculptures, thirty-four piece
bands and paying for a pass-out, fall-down drunk Amy Winehouse to croon
to my impressed friends and family." I don't think I could have put it more eloquently.
In a nutshell, here's my two cents on how the magical back in skinny jeans dream is similar to the perfect wedding day dream:
Both have a Cinderella moment where all the eyeballs in the room are glued to your ravishing beauty, and you in turn become drunk from all the oohs and aahs at your divine beauty It's the moment every woman dreams about because she is perfectly adored. For skinny jeans, it's that moment when you walk into that bar, reunion, or party with your newly skinny bad ass self and all eyes are on you like Lohan to paparazzi. No one exists in the room except for you. For the bride, it's the moment the doors open for you to walk up that aisle, and everyone is gazing at you like the skinny bridal perfection you are. You even get background music to cascade the moment as if you were in a movie. (more after the jump)
There is the build up and idolization of that Cinderella
moment. While you are working your ass off in the gym so you can fit
into that size "three sizes smaller than you are now", you envision the
Cinderella moment over and over in your head like Marcia Brady getting
hit on the nose with a football before her date with dream boat Davey
Jones. Your day dreams are filled with attention on you, laughter,
attention on you, happiness, and attention on you. This is your perfect
moment and you only get it once (we tell ourselves), so you want it to
be everything you can imagine and better.
You have lost all sense of reality because the dream is
intoxicating. It gives you a sense of euphoria and ecstasy. Know that
your decisions are biased towards perfection. You're not thinking
logically or practically when it comes to obtaining your new skinny
self or perfect wedding day. This is why you need a support system of
level headed people who will keep you grounded and not lost in la-la
land.
Finally, you get a big moment that is all about you, where you are the center of attention and you are allowed
to be that. Everyone else always gets the attention or their needs met
first. You always feel guilty or ashamed to want to "come first." But
with the skinny jeans life and the wedding day, you get to come first
completely guilt free. And even if that snotty jealous sibling,
relative or friend tries to sabotage the attention back to them,
everyone knows it, so don't even stress about it. It's your moment.
Grab it.
There is the belief that once you are skinny or married, your
life will be better as if the skinniness or marriage is the sole key to
your happiness. You are banking on the external event to be the magic
wand that changes your life from un-noticeable to extraordinary. The
reality is, your life will be different and that's it, that's the only
guarantee. Whether your life gets better or worse has absolutely
nothing to do with your looks, marital status, banking account, place
in society, or anything external. Everything you need to be happy is
already within your reach inside.
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How the magical skinny jeans dream is similar to the perfect wedding day dream
Reader Amanda, is engaged and planning her big day. Congratualtions! However, not wanting to fall into the bridezilla trap of driving everyone nuts and into debt she asks, "would love to hear your thoughts on the whole crazy subject before my
plans go into a financial tailspin of ice sculptures, thirty-four piece
bands and paying for a pass-out, fall-down drunk Amy Winehouse to croon
to my impressed friends and family." I don't think I could have put it more eloquently.
In a nutshell, here's my two cents on how the magical back in skinny jeans dream is similar to the perfect wedding day dream:
Both have a Cinderella moment where all the eyeballs in the room are glued to your ravishing beauty, and you in turn become drunk from all the oohs and aahs at your divine beauty It's the moment every woman dreams about because she is perfectly adored. For skinny jeans, it's that moment when you walk into that bar, reunion, or party with your newly skinny bad ass self and all eyes are on you like Lohan to paparazzi. No one exists in the room except for you. For the bride, it's the moment the doors open for you to walk up that aisle, and everyone is gazing at you like the skinny bridal perfection you are. You even get background music to cascade the moment as if you were in a movie. (more after the jump)
Reader Amanda, is engaged and planning her big day. Congratualtions! However, not wanting to fall into the bridezilla trap of driving everyone nuts and into debt she asks, "would love to hear your thoughts on the whole crazy subject before my plans go into a financial tailspin of ice sculptures, thirty-four piece bands and paying for a pass-out, fall-down drunk Amy Winehouse to croon to my impressed friends and family." I don't think I could have put it more eloquently.
In a nutshell, here's my two cents on how the magical back in skinny jeans dream is similar to the perfect wedding day dream:
Posted by Stephanie Quilao on Jun 21, 2007 in Skinny commentary & news | Permalink
Tags: myth, perfect wedding day, skinny jeans
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