I broke up with my 4-year partner 6 months ago because he didn't want family/children, and even though I don't want kids right now, I know I do want them in the future. I'm finding it so difficult to get over him, and I think about it all the time. Do you have any advice?
C
Well C,
This is a really good question, and one that I have been asking myself lately too because like you I'm still having a hard time letting go of my ex, and we broke up 10 months ago after 3 years together. I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with Matt.
The hardest part for me is that my love for him hasn't died just because our relationship did. Like you, we broke up because we had different life goals, but still that notion doesn't change my love for him. I'm one of those people who doesn't fall in love very easily or often, but when I do, it's like roots of a 50ft oak tree: deep and there for a very long time. You have to get a crane to yank those roots out.
At the moment, am I the best person to ask for advice about this very subject, maybe or maybe not? Big sis here is not afraid to not have all the answers. However, the readers here are also very wise and insightful, and perhaps they can give both of us some wonderful helpful advice.
So Back in Skinny Jeans readers, what's your best advice for C and I on getting over our ex's so that we can move forward to new loves?
Thank you!
Steph