Self Sabotage: When You Play The Role of Punisher

I got a big dose of reality check this weekend when a wise one said to me:

"Self sabotage, the act of undermining your own wellness, happiness, and success, whether conscious or not, is you taking on the role of punisher, abuser, or bully...against yourself."

{Steph sits in her chair with stillness as the concept sinks in}

Wise one went on to say:

"Why would you raise a hand or voice in mistreatment to yourself if you would not do that to another human being? Why are you less deserving of the same kindness, patience, and compassion that you would bestow to others?"

Okay, hello! See what I mean by serious fill of reality check. If you think and behave in these terms, it would not make sense unless you want to be hypocritical, to treat others well, and then treat yourself badly. For example, all that negative body image chatter that goes on in your head about your "fat thighs, ugly muffin top, and crater like skin," would you ever say the exact same thing to other people about them. Oh hell no! And let me ask you this....