You know those days when you don't do a thing beauty wise meaning no makeup, hair in a pony tail, t-shirt, jeans, and maybe you're lucky to take a shower and brush your teeth, but somehow everyone keeps saying how hot you look. Then there are the days you really try to look pretty and get dolled up, and not one person notices.
Then there is my other favorite where at work you pull something completely out of your arse last second, and then your boss and the honchos above praise you for your brilliance. Then, it happens, you present something that you've been working on for months racking your brain, then come presentation time all you get is blank stares and the sound of crickets.
And we all can relate to this one...
...one day you step on the scale out of the blue as you have not been on the thing for ages but you notice your jeans are a bit looser, and you see that 8 pounds just dropped off. Again, you rack your brain trying to remember what you did because you actually don't even recall trying to lose any weight.
...everything is coming from the true you, not the "trying" you ...
Why is that you think? Why is it that when you "try," really try, you can end up creating what you don't want, and then there are days when you don't try at all and yet voila, all kinds of wonderful things happen?
This is my theory
When you are "trying" you are in a constricting like mindset. Your thoughts are focused on what you need to do to achieve an ideal outcome, you've got perfection on the brain, but most importantly, you don't trust the process so you start creating an insecure sometimes whiff of desperation energy and others pick up on that. Plus, you start over doing it, thinking that more is better when really more could just be making it less.
Vice versa, when you pull things out of the blue or just go about your business going with the flow, you're actually living in the now, the present, and your energy is more open. Your loose living in instinct where there is no thinking, no packaging, no ideals, therefore everything is coming from the true you, not the "trying" you.
The holidays is actually a perfect time to start practicing the loosening up theory because don't we find ourselves in many situations this time of year where we're "trying" too much like trying to get the perfect holiday gifts, trying to impress the relatives and in-laws, trying to shed weight, or trying to be everyone's everything. I think loosening up is actually a wonderful beauty thing that makes you more vibrant looking.
So again, why do you think things don't go your way or the way you'd like when you "try" too hard?
